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Originally Posted by Iridal
We only have one week of vacation together (his vacation starts in the last week of my vacation), and in that week he'll be abroad travelling with a friend  And we don't have that much vacation left, so the next opportunity to go away together is in between Christmas and New Year ... |
My Hubby and I had been dating a week when he asked me to join him at his familys lake cottage that year. It was a bit unnerving. Our first trip together was to spend time with his parents and family friends for a week.
I still don't get why it took him 5 years to propose...
Stitchawl is right, travelling together is a real test. You find out about how willing the other party is to do what you like doing and how willing you are to do what they like doing. You learn a lot about attitudes toawrds money, does you partner want to stay at a place that is really expensive and not happy to stay at a place a little less pricey or is your partner insisting on staying at the cheapest place possible. Do you really share the same idea about what food to eat? Do you have compatible relxation patterns and if you don't are you able to find a smooth work around?
I read and my Husband doesn't. His ideal vacation is chilling on a beach, swimming, and napping with a little bit of other stuff thrown in. My ideal vacation is visiting a foreign country and emersing myself in its history. We have agreed that I will be taking trips on my own with friends every once in a while because my ideal is his hell. I am ok with lying on the beach for a few days but I really need more activity then that. He gets it so we go snorkelling and do some more hiking.
He hates flying, he is tall and sitting on a plane in coach is painful for him. I love it. So one year we go to a local place and the next we will go some place on a plane. We have been looking at places we can take the train to.
The point is you don't know this stuff until you have travelled together. If you don't share vacation commonalities that is probably a good indication that you are going to have big issues in other areas.
Money is the most common reason people get divorced. If you want to stay, and can afford to do so easily, at a three star hotel and he is upset because you could save money by staying at a two star hotel you might find that later on he wants to save money by not doing certain things.