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IMHO, honesty is the best policy. Make sure the new fellow understands you have a boyfriend right now. And make sure the boyfriend knows you're going to dinner with a new friend. Trying to hide things or meet in secret is only going to backfire and make things look worse than they actually are.
I actually know a couple, happily married for 20 years now, who met while the woman was in a relationship with someone else. But she ended the first relationship before starting the second with her now-husband. The husband told me once that if she had tried to be with both at once, or offered to see him behind her then-boyfriend's back, he would have cooled toward her immediately, because it would have been a sign of lack of integrity. He said if she had done it to her boyfriend then, who was to say he wouldn't do it to him, later?
Fortunately, she was honest, and my family now has this couple over for dinner regularly. They still have their flame!
Drinking a Diet Coke and preparing to dive back into my historical fiction....
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