Ditchleyportrait: Thanks for the excellent tip. I'll call around now and visit a few stores tomorrow.
Edit: If it's convenient for you to do so, Ditchleyportrait, please PM me about the location of the store where you saw that 350.
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Originally Posted by Ashjuk
As a tourist who has travelled to New York on more than one occasion I take exception to that. Whilst you may well be able to speak for the scavengers, who are you to say that tourists have no integrity.  |
Ashjuk:
Everyone, and I mean
everyone, is a tourist when they travel, including me. If I were insulting the moral integrity of all tourists, then, logically, that same insult would apply to me, my friends and my family. Even from the most selfish perspective you could invent for me, that sentiment would be far-fetched.
I used the word
integrity to modify
neighborhood for a reason: the place I'm describing has
no integrity as a neighborhood because people don't feel any sense of social/local coherence. The place isn't devoid of a creed because tourists are there, but because, by definition, a place without any sense of local coherence contains
only merchants, tourists, drifters and scavengers: merchants who are on the job, tourists who don't live there, drifters who don't live anywhere and scavengers who hope to take advantage of the two middle groups' provisional status.
Grand Central is another example of a place that lacks social integrity or, if you prefer, community-specific coherence. Everyone's en route or looking for a payoff.
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know you may well be still upset about losing your reader, but to be honest you only have yourself to blame. Perhaps if you had taken more heed of your last sentence you would still have your 350.
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I mention this not for my own sake but for that of my fellow human beings (including you):
(1) Looking for an insult where none is implied will always
seem justified because language is ambiguous and is therefore rich with unintended implications. Looking is, however, never conducive to good will.
Better to interpret people's words in the best way and be accused of idealism than to assume the worst and waste your time on earth pasting angry emoticons into endless responses with a knot in your stomach.
(2) For your own sake, don't project insecurities onto others and, for everyone else's, don't use said insecurities as an excuse to try to wound someone who has just suffered a loss. The act won't feel satisfying even to you, it is often predicated on a mistaken perception on your part, and it is a quick way to make yourself look bad at the moment when you think you're being most righteous.
If you suspect someone's being dismissive, then
ask them if that's their intention. Don't assume you know their unstated motives and then act out.