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Originally Posted by wannabee
Sorry.... forget it. It's not about me.
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Originally Posted by wannabee
bugger
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It affects you, so it's also about you, at least to the people here and elsewhere who know you. I don't think you should be afraid of turning to people to talk about how
you feel...the best therapy is a friendly ear.
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Originally Posted by Stitchawl
I doubt anyone really knows a comfortable way to deal with these things. My Mom just passed way a few months ago, and I'm still not sure I'm dealing with it... Know that we are all pulling for you.
Stitchawl
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I'm deeply sorry to hear of your mum's death, Stitchawl. Grief seems to know no pattern as much as we strive for it to and tell ourselves so, set as it is to wash and refract and reflect across each of our uniquely individual personalities. I don't know what else to say, other than to acknowledge the pain and difficulty of it, and that talking helps (as does quiet listening from others).
I lost my father just gone eight years ago. I can't say our family has ever properly dealt with it, all the time playing their parts pretending progress and peace. It reverberates, like a slow-motion passive aggressive explosion in the undercurrents of our "family". I feel now like our family died with our father, and our desire or compulsion or pressure to be closer has pushed us far apart, and to pick at blame for that failure.
Marc