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Originally Posted by dsvick
Moms are like that. It sounds like there are other issues involved there and I hope you get them worked our, or that they at least don't impact your visit. On the other hand it didn't sound like she was being deliberately manipulative/obtuse either. Just take it as the honest, genuine offer she meant it as. Have fun on your trips and tell the roommate thanks  |
Believe me, I thank my roommate on a regular basis. As for my mom, I wouldn't say she's doing it deliberately; it's more like she's forgotten there's any other way of doing things.
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Originally Posted by montsnmags
Does the term "passive aggressive" ring any bells with you? Going from what you hint at and the example given, it sounds like you might have a tad of experience with it with your mother. If so...[hugs] you and me both, sister.
Cheers,
Marc (with a PA Mum and sibling disciples) |
Thanks, Marc. Yes, definitely PA, and she's quite a "reality bender" as well. I actually have to check early childhood memories with a third party because I'm sometimes not sure if I'm remembering what really happened or just her version of it. On more than one occasion she's caused me to question my own sanity. Heck, my biological grandfather, who I never met, has changed nationalities three times. I wanted to anonymously call his "other" family and settle the matter once and for all, but this last time she went with Italian and that's cool, so I let it go.
She is who she is. When she still lived up in Pennsylvania, I used to fly up every fall and we'd take a trip to Atlantic City. We had fun there, we seemed almost normal on those trips. I miss that so much.
But now I know that she didn't take those trips to be with me, she was doing it to get away from my Dad for a week.
Oops. Got morose. Sorry.
I'm done now.