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Originally Posted by astrangerhere
I cannot fathom falling in love over the net. Perhaps I'm too shallow a person or perhaps I'm just too old to get my brain around it. But people can make themselves into whatever they want to be on the web, and I would always wonder what I was really getting.
I am an admin on another site where we've had 2 users get married. And it was a disaster. On the same site, we had a "woman" who left a trail of broken hearts before anyone figured out she was a man. He'd been using pics of his ex-girlfriend as himself, and just playing with all the men on the site for fun.
Maybe I'm just too paranoid. :shrugs:
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I guess it depends on a person. I had a troubled childhood, so I learned to listen and see. To observe. I would not allow myself to feel anything before I were sure. I have seen to many lies.
I think if it were online chat only. No phone calls, no pictures, no emails then it would be a lot more complicated. When you speak with somebody on the phone you might notice many things. Pictures of half naked or fully dressed perfect girls would not work if you are not dull
There are many details that accumulate when you chat with somebody every/other day and unless you chat with 10 others, you would notice any discrepancies.
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Originally Posted by JSWolf
You don't wait for it to happen. You don't go looking for it. You don't let it go looking for you. It just happens. There isn't any other way it can happen. You don't plan for it. You don't expect it. You just go with it. And it happens when it happens.
When I first told my wife that I loved her on IRC, I just kind of blurted it out in PM. It was not something I was planning on doing. It just happened.
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I could not agree more.
I was not looking for a girl on IRC. I asked a friend of mine to install it for me on my old 486 Windows 95 because I didn't want to loose my English, something I thought I would never be able to learn, but somehow I got a grip on it when playing online game for 3 years then quit it forever. I would go to "beginners" chat group and just read what people say, on a very rare occasion say something. I was always watching MTV at the same time, TV was opposite my PC. Most of the time I would sit with my back to the PC screen. It just so happened, that I turned my head for a moment and on the fast running text (beginners group is quite lively) on the 14" screen I noticed that somebody asked: Does anybody speak Russian?
....I do, I might say Hi.
That was it.