[astra]

Originally Posted by Billi

Astra – or anyone else with this experience – how did it feel to see and smell and touch your wife for the first time after falling in love platonically, with only an image in the head?

I cannot claim I was completely blindfolded. I am not a angel. If she were fat or ugly it would not work Woman's look is important to me. She is a lot smarter and experienced. I guess she sensed something and at some point (within the first month) this lady (when all her other tricks failed) mentioned that she liked high heels and short skirts. It put her within the range of women I might like Then she sent me a couple of pictures of herself and asked me about mine (on her part it was a mere curiosity, she was trapped, although I didn't know about it because I didn't even try (I wouldn't know how anyway, I don't know how to flirt ). Why? Only another online friend, although the first Russian speaking). Just before the picture swap she called me.

Spoiler:

Managed to cause quite a ruckus. I am a very private person. Noone would know about her until: (my parents) - I was buying tickets to visit her for the first time, (my friends) - I visited her or maybe much later. What did she do? She called my home number when I was at work and told my parents something like that: Hi! It is X from England. I would like to talk to A. Could you tell him please that I will call again at 16.00? My parents were flabbergasted. They called me at work when I could not pick up the phone, so they asked this guy to pass on to me that X from England called me and she will call again at 16.00, could I come home ASAP please?

It was a test because my voice was important to her. As well as sending a picture of my hands, the only other thing that was important. I fell in love probably 7-8 months after we met on IRC. She was in it within a month Women are unpredictable. I am a honest type. So, I told her after the first couple of chats (2-3 weeks) that I am a factory worker, failed two universities thus no degree, no money. Instead of turning her away, it sparked an interest or worse?!?
I declined her first invitation 6 months into our friendship because I was not sure. I cannot lie, I cannot be with a woman if I don't like her a lot, only one step before love. I accepted the next one, 9 months into our relationship, when I knew I have developed tender feelings towards her. By that time I received two tapes recorded by her and a dictaphone with instructions to commit the same crime. It (recording one of my own) was a torture because I am taciturn and had no idea what to talk about.
Anyway, when we met, we were ready. It was like two people who have been in love for a long time but where separated. To halves became one. As simple as that.