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Originally Posted by Roger Parkinson
Growing old gracefully or disgracefully is a personal decision the rest of us need not judge.
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Roger Parkinson
. Growing old /QUOTE]
An oxymoron. Shrinking old is more what I see.  |
Growing also implies some learning that makes you better or wiser. Most people just
become old, without the growing part.
As for not being jugdemental: My mom refuses to grow old, she was an unearthly beauty once and loosing her looks made her weird. It started about the time when she was 40 and got more virulent yearly. When she was 50 it was so nervwrecking my granny once said to her in front of me and my best friend on a Sunday Lunch: "If you proceed by getting younger everytime I see you this rapidly, I'll soon be able to have you aborted!"
And my gran was neither rude nor did she talk about "bodyly" things!!! It was desperate annoyance speaking through her.
A couple of month my mom was talking about herself (favourite topic, as you will have guessed) in a way that made me wonder and I asked of her how old she is. I got her unguarded and the answer was: "40!"
Given the fact I am 47 and her real life is 71 this was a very strange moment.
OTH nothing could have told my more about
growing old, a knowledge that seems to make it quite easy for me. What I've learned is: You have to make sure people have other reasons to want to be with you than your looks. Those who are fun, make interesting conversation and are witty never fear to loose their looks and most often hadn't any worth mentioning from the start. So all there is about growing old is to try to
be beautiful instead of
looking beautiful.