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Exer · 03-26-2011, 04:23 AM

So as some of you know, my lady passed away earlier this month. I've been dealing with that as best I can, but it seems like her family is doing their best to mentally torture me.

Her family and I have never seen eye-to-eye on some things. Even me and my lady had a difference of opinions, but we loved and respected each other so much that it was never a problem in our relationship. Far from it. I had my feelings, she had hers, and our love met in the middle. We never judged each other.

Since she has passed though, every time I see her family they find some way to jab at me. Every single thing they say seems designed to hurt me. Sometimes it can almost seem innocent, like when they say "She is in a better place now". Until you know what they are not-so-subtly saying is that, "She is in a better place now that she is away from you."

Her mom has told me that she believes her daughter would still be alive, if she hadn't met me. Can you imagine hearing that from the mother of the person you love? Her brother writes me from prison, saying things that I can't even repeat here.

Her Facebook page is so filled with hateful conversations that I can't even bring myself to look at it anymore. They've been going around to all the other women and girls in the family and saying things like, "Let this be a lesson to you", "Don't make the same mistake my daughter made", and so on.

And this is just the nice stuff. I've read other comments that just made me cry.

I don't understand how people can be this way. I knew they had issues with me, but I've never felt this level of vitriol from anyone in my life. I might almost be able to understand it, if I was some sort of ... I don't know, "bad guy" or something. But I'm so straight-laced that even my girl poked fun at me sometimes. I don't drink. I've never done drugs. I've never had any trouble with the law ... shoot, I've never even had a parking or speeding ticket.

Every time I'm near her family now I feel like I'm dying a little bit more. But they are her family ... they are my last link to her. If I turn my back on them, it would almost feel like losing all I have left of her. Does that make any sense at all?

I just need some advice on what to do.

I know this could get close to crossing the line as for MR policy, so I don't want to get into specifics, but how can I possibly deal with people who hate me simply for not believing in the things they do? Because they honestly seem to hate me. It just breaks my heart and I don't know what to do. I guess all these years they simply tolerated my presence because I was with her ... but now that she's gone it's like open season on me.

Its just making me hopeless and sick. These are the people I should have been able to turn to for support. It just gets worse and worse.

03-26-2011, 04:23 AM	#1
Exer I see Russia! Posts: 205 Karma: 234787 Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Alaska Device: Etch-A-Sketch	I need advice So as some of you know, my lady passed away earlier this month. I've been dealing with that as best I can, but it seems like her family is doing their best to mentally torture me. Her family and I have never seen eye-to-eye on some things. Even me and my lady had a difference of opinions, but we loved and respected each other so much that it was never a problem in our relationship. Far from it. I had my feelings, she had hers, and our love met in the middle. We never judged each other. Since she has passed though, every time I see her family they find some way to jab at me. Every single thing they say seems designed to hurt me. Sometimes it can almost seem innocent, like when they say "She is in a better place now". Until you know what they are not-so-subtly saying is that, "She is in a better place now that she is away from you." Her mom has told me that she believes her daughter would still be alive, if she hadn't met me. Can you imagine hearing that from the mother of the person you love? Her brother writes me from prison, saying things that I can't even repeat here. Her Facebook page is so filled with hateful conversations that I can't even bring myself to look at it anymore. They've been going around to all the other women and girls in the family and saying things like, "Let this be a lesson to you", "Don't make the same mistake my daughter made", and so on. And this is just the nice stuff. I've read other comments that just made me cry. I don't understand how people can be this way. I knew they had issues with me, but I've never felt this level of vitriol from anyone in my life. I might almost be able to understand it, if I was some sort of ... I don't know, "bad guy" or something. But I'm so straight-laced that even my girl poked fun at me sometimes. I don't drink. I've never done drugs. I've never had any trouble with the law ... shoot, I've never even had a parking or speeding ticket. Every time I'm near her family now I feel like I'm dying a little bit more. But they are her family ... they are my last link to her. If I turn my back on them, it would almost feel like losing all I have left of her. Does that make any sense at all? I just need some advice on what to do. I know this could get close to crossing the line as for MR policy, so I don't want to get into specifics, but how can I possibly deal with people who hate me simply for not believing in the things they do? Because they honestly seem to hate me. It just breaks my heart and I don't know what to do. I guess all these years they simply tolerated my presence because I was with her ... but now that she's gone it's like open season on me. Its just making me hopeless and sick. These are the people I should have been able to turn to for support. It just gets worse and worse.