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Originally Posted by DixieGal
I'm Southern. We say "Thank you, Sugar/Sweetie/Honey" to everyone all day long.
(And like Canadians, "Excuse me, Sugar/Sweetie/Honey" also.)
Pronunciation Guide: Thaynnnk yew, Shu-gah.
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Originally Posted by astra
I wonder how we manage to talk in the office? When I talk to my friend I never tell her: See you Thursday luv. (She told me once: Jack, our plumber, you know him, the one I recommended to you...he is odd, I called him the other day and he said See you next Monday luv. Since when a plumber calls his client who pays him, luv? He was not like that 5 years ago. The lady I am talking about she is a 56 years old very educated and smart lecturer, middle class representative).
When I pay somebody I expect Sir/Mr. whatever is appropriate but not darling, luv, sweetheart.
College canteen. There is a very nice lady who is very kind and nice, always serve me in canteen. Always give me bigger portion. For some reason all of them like me. I give Christmas card to the team because they are nicer to me than I deserve  . She/others know my name and say Hi Astra. However, when she/others serve me a meal she/others call me darling....or love....I hate it.
It is worse with total strangers and it is outrageous. It is familiarity that is unacceptable by me from strangers. |
I guess it's a cultural thing as well. The English are more private than we are in our country. But we seem to be more like the English than the Southern 'Sugar, sweetey, honey".
If anyone would say that to me in my country, I would probably feel very uncomfortable. It's just not done; it seems to invade my private space. I'm a private person and tend to keep some distance.
I just give a heartfelt thank you, and that's it.
But having said that: when I was in the United States, in the South and everyone called me honey or sugar.........I JUST LOVED IT.......it felt like a ray of sunshine on my head. So welcoming, even if it was just the custom.