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Originally Posted by astra
I wonder how we manage to talk in the office? When I talk to my friend I never tell her: See you Thursday luv. (She told me once: Jack, our plumber, you know him, the one I recommended to you...he is odd, I called him the other day and he said See you next Monday luv. Since when a plumber calls his client who pays him, luv? He was not like that 5 years ago. The lady I am talking about she is a 56 years old very educated and smart lecturer, middle class representative).
When I pay somebody I expect Sir/Mr. whatever is appropriate but not darling, luv, sweetheart.
College canteen. There is a very nice lady who is very kind and nice, always serve me in canteen. Always give me bigger portion. For some reason all of them like me. I give Christmas card to the team because they are nicer to me than I deserve  . She/others know my name and say Hi Astra. However, when she/others serve me a meal she/others call me darling....or love....I hate it.
It is worse with total strangers and it is outrageous. It is familiarity that is unacceptable by me from strangers. |
Yikes, you would be VERY uncomfortable here in Georgia, then.
I absolutely understand what you are saying, but there is no getting away from it here. No offense is meant by it, and most people would be surprised that you find it over-familiar. In most cases, particularly in a restaurant or a store, I think it is meant to put the customer at ease. I guess it wouldn't work that way for you, huh?
