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Originally Posted by DMcCunney
I wasn't surprised, exactly. But a fair number of post-op male-to-female transsexuals do in fact want relationships with men after the change.
I was just a little bemused that all three of the ones I know didn't.
It's difficult either way. I first met all three when they were still biologically male. Abby was no longer with her girlfriend the last I knew. Margaret had been an old male friend, married to a woman who was also an old friend, and had fathered a couple of kids before finally realizing she wanted to be female, and is involved in a stable long-term relationship with another woman. Callie, the most recent transition, went through dating hell. She was quite upfront about the fact that she was a post-op M->F transsexual looking for a relationship with another woman, and was in contact with an assortment of prospects who said "Oh, yeah, I'm okay with that", but when it got close and personal, discovered they weren't okay with it and broke off. She seems to be in a stable long term relationship now, and I'm delighted.
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Dennis
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In my experience sexuality and gender don't necessarily have a lot to do with each other. Transgendered people can be straight, gay, bi just like cisgendered folks.
I've known a couple of couples in which one partner went through a transition with the support of their partner and they remained together. (The love and support I saw in those relationships was something I think a lot of people could aspire to.) Unfortunately I think most transgendered folks are more likely to run into the problem your friend Callie had. But maybe that's just me being pessimistic.