Thread: What is in your cup?
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Old 02-03-2011, 04:50 PM   #7515
beppe
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Originally Posted by Stitchawl View Post
Why? Why will it be totally worth it? Not being facetious here. Having children was very important in the Old days. We needed lots of kids to help with chores around the farm. With the high rate of infant mortality combined with shorter life spans, we needed lots of kids just to be sure of maintaining the family line.

Why do we want kids today? (And I'm not advocating NOT having kids. I'm just asking why.) It's something to think about...

Stitchawl
very interesting question Stichawl. The perfect question for this thread.

I have been involved a couple of times in the wanting and having children. With different wives. Lately even. We have a daughter that will be 4 in few weeks, and - the blessable be blessed - she is the joy of her mother and mine. Why? In both cases, I can risk the guess that it has been a very powerful desire of the mothers, highly educated professionals, both of them with Ph D's and solid personal positions. I tend to think that in both cases it was almost an overpowering biological impulse. They both trusted me to be a good father and they have not shown signs of regret in the least. On the contrary, with the first - even after the divorce - there is a strong feeling around being co-parents. About being a good husband ... a veil of silence is best.

To me, being father at an age when one is usually a grandfather (which I am also), has been and is a tremendous experience. I felt decades of age melt away from my body, my mind and my spirit.

I have accomplished what was reasonable to expect from me professionally and financially. Now I can put in this new adventure the time, the attention, even the means that I was not able to provide more than 30 years ago with the first child.

Is it all roses, to smell and to admire? Not at all, even if one is blessed by children's good health and happy disposition, but that's life. Nothing is worst than a dry heart. Children are there just to keep it nicely moist. How to say what I want to say. Well. Jews have a way to it. You are given the gift of grand fatherhood as a recompense for not having killed your own children. That about explains what I mean. They can drive you up the wall and sometimes they actually do.
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