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Originally Posted by Stitchawl
When I was in my twenties, and had been out of the house for 10+ years, I asked my mother "if you had it to do over, would you have had kids?" She looked at me, smiled, told me she loved me very much (and that was never something I doubted while growing up. I had a wonderful childhood,) and said "No way, Jose!"
My own son is now 35 and getting married this summer. He was the 'perfect baby,' a normal happy, healthy child, a typical teen, and grew into a delightful adult. But if I could do it all over again... no way, Jose! Having kids was something we were 'supposed to do,' just like going to college. No one ever questioned either of them. No one ever asked me if I wanted to go to college. It was simply assumed that I would. Even I assumed I would. I really didn't want to, but it wasn't something I could voice. Same with getting married, and the same with having kids. It was what was 'done' in my parent's world. It was never questioned.
Now I'm 64. Now I'm asking questions. I don't regret anything I've done. I'm just questioning it with an open mind.
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I know my dad never wanted kids. They had four
. I'm pretty sure my mom would do it all over again. When the youngest was born, the oldest was nearly 6. So she had a really hard time when we were little. But she says she loves it now we're all in our twenties. She definitely would do it all over again.
I think you're still supposed to have children. People expect you to settle down and have a family of your own at one point. Me, I don't really know whether I want kids. Maybe if I find the right guy. Babies are cute, until they start to cry. Then I'm glad I can give them back to their parents and walk out of the room
In my cup: chicken soup. Why does chicken soup taste so good when you're sick
