I think it's the moment for me to wrap up this thread, or at least try to draw some conclusive remarks. I said to myself this morning:
you weren't all that pleased with the way it turned out....
at the end yes, but the discussion was really tiny.
Exactly. Have to draw in the right people first, ...
Also I think the thread paid the price of having been started without much structure. I did not know, when I prepared the first post, what there was to learn and to discuss, I just knew that the theme fascinated and fascinates me, and I hoped to receive light and stimulating discussion. I got some, very much appreciated by the way. And maybe too much of a holy war against wife cheaters and family destroyers.
I got also a number of case testimonials, which although interesting by themselves were not always lifted to a more abstract plane of discussion.
So what did I learn that I did not know already?
Some of the stories had enough depth and real feelings and consequences attached to demonstrate that it might be that interpersonal relations in physical world and on the Internet are the same and the differences are just the obvious ones. This was also stated clearly. Not much. I would have liked a discussion on what there is at the next level of this.
Elfwreck obviously knows the aspects of this world, and as obviously, she did not find enough discussion material to stay in the thread longer than she did. This is clearly the shortcoming of my piloting the discussion. Well, it is a learning game.
I learned that there are not only the aspects and the problems of who wants to start and develop a relation in Internet, but the problems and the reactions of Internet itself. This was totally unexpected.
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