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Originally Posted by desertblues
I think honesty is the keyword in all.
Honest to yourself: why are you joining a forum?
But also honesty to the posters= real people on the forum. Don't cultivate a picture of yourself that's not you.
Also honesty to your partner: my husband knows and can read over my shoulder if he wants. I sent the 1000-post celebration-thread as a link to him; to let him share in the fun LCJ and I had thinking the business of celebrating up.
I also think Beppe is honest in trying to define for himself where he wants to go and to ask on the forum to explore this subject a bit more.
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I like your post, even if it is about relations as such and not on Iternet relations in particular and even if I do not share your opinions completely. That's the beauty of it all.
Let me comment on your points one by one.
I think honesty is the keyword in all. 100%. no need to elaborate
Honest to yourself: why are you joining a forum? There is a
thread that allows us to have an idea on why we post on MR, which is not exactly why we join a forum, but quite close to the spirit of the reminder by desertblues.
But also honesty to the posters= real people on the forum. Don't cultivate a picture of yourself that's not you. This is undoubtedly a very good advice. But ... The image comes out any how. One should be aware of it. If he/she is not aware of this simple fact of life, than it does not matter. It's his/her problem really. I like that under an Avatar and a nickname one can escape from a day to day routine and have a bit of Carnevalia. I do not want to elaborate more on this. I might open a side thread (not serious of course). So on this point I agree in principle but not completely in practice.
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honesty to your partner: my husband knows and can read over my shoulder if he wants. I sent the 1000-post celebration-thread as a link to him; to let him share in the fun LCJ and I had thinking the business of celebrating up.
this is the most important of all. The more easy and the more difficult to manage while at the same time one tries to live a full and meaningful live, as individual, as spouse, as provider as parent/grandparent, as son (not me anymore, but she as a daughter, and the problems there are not in need, these mothers ...), as a citizen. Tough. And the priorities have to keep shifting with time, situations and occasions. If there is trust everything becomes smooth and easy. Difficulties are always behind the door anyway. We would never think of looking behind each other shoulders if uninvited. We often invite each other, on matters that we think could be amusing or gratifying. Like the first answering posts on this thread were commented and laughed at the table. So I agree with you, and than there are all those cultural effects to take into account.
Thank you warmly for what you say about me being honest.