I see some merit in a few of your complaints. I HATE looking at my double chin in my nook!

And I'm not all that overweight, lol.
However, I do love that bottom touch screen for shopping. If I browse B&N 2or 3 times a week, I can swipe right through the covers looking for something new. Must be my personal preference for learning, but the covers seem much easier to recognize to me than going through the list.
My guess is that I would like a Kindle design and operation better, but it doesn't support library books, so- no go! I don't write in books, but then I only read for fun. So those features don't do anything for me.
It really does depend on what you want to do with the ereader and your style.