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I would not want to judge intentions or anything else in this scenario.
In our 36 years of marriage, my wife and I have had our share of arguments over money. Money problems are one of the, if not most, common reasons for divorce.
Several years ago we established a family rule about spending money. We talk about everything and reach agreement for all purchases over $100. Also, we generally talk about all other purchases. Gifts are included.
If we do not agree on a purchase, it doesn't happen. Am I sometimes disappointed? Yes. Same for her. Do we sometimes have knock down, drag out arguments over "must have" purchases? Yes. But the rule really does help.
Gifts can easily be misinterpreted. There is no gift worth even the slightest strain in a marriage, mine or someone else's.
As the circumstances are described, I would not go through with this gift. Your mileage may vary.
Dean
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