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Originally Posted by clintbradford
>> ... and my wife doesn't think it is appropriate ... [but I ignored the woman with whom I made marriage vows, and did it anyway] ...
To me, this spells RED FLAG for your relationship with your wife. You quite obviously still have a childhood crush on and long for this other woman. And you are playing "protector and savior" - evidenced by your own words. Add to this the fact that you have separate "fund accounts" from your wife ... Your relationship is in trouble.
But that's exactly how you want it to be. You like this "thrill" of pleasing this other woman.
Dude - Better pay more and better attention to your wife. That is, IF you value your marriage.
Oh, I can just see you all eReader lovers getting outraged and scream at me that I am off-base. But please take that original post to ANY licensed marital counselor, have them assess it, and THEN come back and post where I am totally wrong.
>> ... If she reads this and I've ruined the surprise, oh well. I just can't hold it in any more ...
You see it as a game. You took the idea to your wife, and she was totally against it. It is no "game" to your wife - you have violated your vows of being true to each other, and have directly gone against what your wife wants. What's next?
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IMHO, I also agree with Clint. If you had a serious talk with your wife about it and she said no; you should respect her opinion. What's the point of talking to her about it if you decide not to follow it? And you and your friend already established the rules of gift giving between you two and what you are doing is uncalled for. What would your friend think about you giving his wife a Kindle 3? You should be careful not to step on anyone's toes, your wife's and your friend's.