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Originally Posted by yvanleterrible
That is SOME problem, kk!
What do you figure will happen if your mother does not see the way you do?
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she'll burn through her available capitol, be forced to sell the house.
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Originally Posted by dsvick
KK, what a really tough position to be in. Hopefully, they'll see the sense of it in the end and make the right choice. Make sure you don't get too pushy with it though or you'll end up driving away from it just because you're irritating them with it.
I'm being as calm and laid back as possible. Mom sets a lot of store by the church and her pastor. I had a meeting with him the other night (without her knowing). went over some of the crap going on, information HE needs to know to help her etc. he has called for a family meeting Sunday afternoon. I'm not saying a peep until Sunday morning.
Keep in mind too that some people, despite every well laid out thought and argument, will not see things the same way you do. If that's the case try to find out what their thoughts are and come at it that way. Did they move him into a facility in the hopes that it will extend things and he'll get better, if so maybe have the Dr talk to them.
at first I know Mom did not quite get what "hospice" meant. I think she is coming to terms with it Do they not want to bring him home because of the burden on your mom? Mom's initial concern was the stairs here. it is a 3 story house. however the main floor (middle floor) has 2 rooms that are both plenty big enough to have a hospital bed set up in. the kitchen is on this floor as well as a full bathroom. Show them how much other help will be available.
I've been trying to educate her as to everything hospice does. I went through this with my Gran. she has not had to deal with this type of situation since she was a small child. her father died when she was out of state and she had her mother in a full care facility (that Grandmother had had the extra long term insurance). the pastor also happens to be a hospice chaplain which she seems to have lost site of. hopefully some light can be shed on the issue
Just my $.02
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