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Originally Posted by poohbear_nc
The scary thing is he typed it all on a Kindle!!
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yes indeed there is that!
ok, my rant... I am the black sheep, the wilde childe, the bohemian gypsy, yada yada.... was Daddy's little girl and treated like total crap by my mother and 9 years younger sister. oh well. I have dealt with it all of my life.
since this crisis, my sister who was planning on being here anyway moved her trip up by one day (she was driving from Nebraska, no biggie). she and her daughters have just mostly done hand holding. they are currently at an arts and crafts festival, (my sister teaches there) which was pre-planned, they'll be back Sunday. my daughter has been driving my Mom around and doing chores. neither one of them have any business acumen at all. they moved Dad into a facility on Monday. it costs 3400 a month. insurance doesn't cover it. that works out to around 41K a year I think. Dad keeps asking to come home. there is plenty of room to put up a hospital bed and make him comfortable. sure, Mom cannot care for him herself. she no longer drives, this means regardless of what happens, if Dad is in a facility, someone has to be here to drive her around. that same someone can be here to help her with Dad. she refuses to understand how hospice works and the amount of people that are available to come in and DO come in every day to assist with care. that you are never a "prisoner" in your home. I've been trying to tell her that she needs to meet with her broker, I've already gotten her accountant in to meet with her, and determine a cut off time as to when paying that extra money needs to stop.
not to mention that Dad would be happier and much more comfortable at home. once they are on hospice care, no heroic measures are made. no IVs, no resusitation, just comfort. once again I am the bad guy because I ask the hard questions and make people think. and get treated like shit for my efforts.
*end rant*