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Originally Posted by Maggie Leung
Depends on the relationship. My husband and I treat it as our money, and we think very similarly about how to spend or not. I don't care if he buys a new computer or such without telling me, and vice versa. Neither of us would show up with a new car unannounced. We've moved cross-country over the years, and my husband has trusted me to buy new homes unseen by him.
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I agree. Even before we got married, we intermingled our finances. There is no 'my money' or 'her money' but our money.
And we agreed that for small purchases, we can just go out and do it, but for larger purposes, we would check with each other. It is not so much about permission as about courtesy. And not spending enough money to overdraw the account, of course...
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Originally Posted by joblack
You have to learn a lot about women and especially personal boundaries.
You don't have to ask your wife/girlfriend if you could spend your money. You don't have to ask your wife/girlfriend if you're allowed to have a poker night with your friends ...
If you have to ask for everything you're obviously wipped  |
You don't have to ask anyone about anything. But when your lives are tied together, your plans might affect her plans and vice versa. It is courteous, and advantageous for long term success in a relationship to ask your partner before spending large amounts of money, or taking a night for yourself. It is equally courteous and advantageous for your partner to agree to such requests, unless they cause problems with other plans.