08-22-2013, 09:52 PM | #31 |
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I'd suggest that it is a multitude of issues. Children are subject to influences ranging from family, friends, the media, etc.. Children also interact with a large number of people that may or may not have their best interests in mind. (Example: individuals willing to sell or give children adult content, even though this decision belongs in the domain of the parents.)
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08-22-2013, 10:58 PM | #33 |
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I remember buying a somewhat pornographic novel when I was 11 or 12... My mother wrenched it out of my hands one evening, and swore she was going to get whoever sold it to me, which I think was a Waldenbooks in Chicago at the time. She got over it, and so did I.
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08-23-2013, 01:16 AM | #34 |
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Because in general, the terms of service in online stores usually state you have to be an adult if you want to create an account.
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08-23-2013, 01:37 AM | #36 |
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I would go even further and say they should monitor all media they consume. My children do not have a TV in their room, my daughter didn't have her own computer until she went to college, for the first couple of years when she had an iPod we monitored what music was on it, etc.
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08-23-2013, 02:41 AM | #37 | |
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Okay, I exaggerate slightly, but as a kid, just reading fantasy, SF, and horror I ran into a lot of X-rated stuff. |
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08-23-2013, 03:01 AM | #38 |
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I'd be much more concerned with my daughter making homemade films with her phone and posting them to sites like Vine than reading a book.
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08-23-2013, 10:34 AM | #39 | |
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08-23-2013, 10:54 AM | #40 |
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I like to know what my kids are reading...I like to know what they are watching...I like to know what my kids are listening to. I've bought books that have had some horrible scenes of violence, rape and child abuse that I wouldn't have thought were in those books. I would not want my kids to turn a page and read something like that if I can avoid it by simply asking them what book they want to read and look it up to see what kind of book it is.
It's not so much about trust, as it is about protecting them from what I feel is disgusting violence that no child should be reading about. My parents never knew what I was reading, but I look at that as they just couldn't care less. I care about my kids, and I have a right to at least attempt to protect them from of the content in the books, tv and music out there until they are old enough to avoid it (or not) themselves. I think 14-15 is a good age to let them decide on their own, depending on their level of maturity. I don't want my 13 year old picking up The Devils Punchbowl by Greg Iles (really disturbing scenes of rape and other violence against women). If my girls bought a book about making a sex tape for profit, I think I would be calling a psychologist to help deal with that one. There's something going on there that's beyond the content in a book. That mother needs to be spending a little more time with her daughter. She obviously doesn't know much about what's going on in her kids head. |
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There is a difference between being a 'parent' and being a 'pal'. No matter how much it annoyed my kids, I never abrogated my obligation as a parent. The trick was in the balance of giving them enough space to explore while still monitoring what they were exposed to.... the maturity of the child will influence the amount of space but the monitoring is still required. Yes, I think it is much more difficult for parents now than it was in the past, but the degree of difficulty does not remove the responibility. |
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Had my parents done the same I would have grown up despising them and would likely have cut all bonds permanently. |
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08-23-2013, 11:21 AM | #43 |
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That is an excessive jump from what was stated and somewhat provocative....reading diaries and the like is an invasion of privacy (IMO), where monitoring their access to media is parenting.
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08-23-2013, 11:31 AM | #45 |
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Can anyone post an actual example of something that they read when they were young that they now wish their parents had protected them from?
When I was young, I read books about sex, drugs, Nazis, guns, Jesus and lots of other horrible things that I'm sure inspired much pearl-clutching in the librarians handing me the books. My parents monitored what I read, but didn't apply the apparently unspoken corollary of taking "dangerous" material away, for which I'm grateful. I'm pretty happy with how I turned out and (as far as they'll tell me) so are my parents. Reading a book about a sex tape isn't making a sex tape any more than reading a book about the Klan made me David Duke. |
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