Originally Posted by kindlekitten
in a relationship
that I have been trying to get out of for fifteen years
and now he has cancer
and I feel REALLY stuck
That's a horrible situation to be in. In the end, though, you need to do what is right for you. And if that means making the hard decisions, so be it. I was in a situation that went on far too long - I stayed because of threatened suicide, and one attempt, but ultimately made the break and it was the best thing for both of us.