Originally Posted by gmw
The idea that a 17yo male (even a 100yo version of one) should fob off their own hang-ups onto their partner does not seem far fetched, indeed it seems perfectly reasonable and realistic reflection of reality*. What this outsider reads into your comments, especially the obviously pejorative epithet of "abstinence porn", is that you are berating the author for presenting such unacceptable, to you, standards so successfully. That is: it's hard to read this as a criticism of the text, since it is seems a reasonable representation (of what we might expect to happen*), and it was obviously successful, so what else is left but a criticism of the author for choosing to write it?
* I'm referring to your specific example here - there are obviously less realistic portrayals available in the source text.
Then you are, I'm afraid, reading me incorrectly.
But at this point I don't know how to clarify myself further than what I've already said, I'm sorry.