hey guys thanks for the info. the real problem, however, was completely different.
i couldn't get the icon to transfer because i had my kobo plugged in with a dual plug in for the light (which is attached to the case). this sets them both into charge mode only and you can't transfer with the light extension attached.
so if anyone else has this problem, this was the reason.
finally, is there a reliable website for book downloads?
people on this board are talking about the books their reading, but where are they getting them from?
if you can't post it here, please pm me.
i found a book series i was looking for, but can't find the website anymore.